Being a calm person can help you navigate the difficult times in your life with ease and grace and handle situations with more patience and forgiveness.
Being a calm person is not necessarily how you’re born but how you train yourself to be.
How to Be a Calm Person
I think anyone can become a calm person if they put the right habits into place. Maybe it’s not as easy as it would be for someone else, but it’s still doable.
So, how do you become a calm person? Someone who doesn’t easily get upset or angry, who is patient and quiet in times of stress, whose feathers aren’t easily ruffled, and who brings peace to those around them.
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You start by calming your own inner turmoil. Only when you’re calm on the inside can you be truly calm on the outside.
Meditation is helpful. Try sitting in nature and observing what’s around you or just closing your eyes and clearing your mind. Don’t let distractions like your phone or notifications disrupt you. But if they do, train yourself to not get upset if you do hear a ping or something that demands your attention. Just gracefully shift your attention back to the present moment.
Living moment to moment is a key part of being a calm person. If you’re worrying about the past or getting anxious about the future, then you won’t experience the peace of living in the present moment. I’m not talking about saying YOLO and totally disregarding your future by doing whatever the heck you want right now; instead, it’s about approaching your tasks and movements mindfully and going about them one at a time.
What happened in the past is in the past. What happens in the future hasn’t happened yet, so there’s nothing to worry about. 🙂
Don’t ruminate on the past and don’t worry about the future. You can apply the principles of meditation to your everyday life too. Keep bringing your mind back to the present moment like you would if you were meditating.
Sometimes we get angry or upset over what other people say or do to us or external situations that unfold around us. If something bad happens in your life, getting upset will only make it more painful, so it’s better to be as calm as you can. Try to understand the other person or that in some situations things are truly out of your control.
If you do get angry or upset, make sure you don’t get mad about being mad or scold yourself. Acknowledge and accept your emotions. What is your anger trying to tell you? Maybe it’s really just masking your underlying fear or sadness about something.
With just a few shifts to the way you react to events in your life, you can become a calmer and happier person.
You may also be interested in our class Slow it Down about reducing anxiety and stress in your life. 🙂