Sometimes managing your depression is less about what you add to your life, and more about what you take away. Here are 7 things I don’t do that help my depression. These have all become such ingrained habits in me that I don’t even have to think about them anymore.
Also check out 10 Things That Happy People Do Differently.
7 Things I Don’t Do That Help My Depression
Worrying makes you stressed out but doesn’t actually change anything, as much as we wish it would. So then you have two options: either do something to actively change the situation, or don’t worry about it. Either way is going to be a lot more productive than ruminating over things you might not even be able to control.
2. Keep a spotless home or cook from scratch
Sorry Mom. Some people love cooking and cleaning, but I am not one of those people. I’m a minimalist so my apartment is usually organized and not messy, but I only spend maybe 10 or 15 minutes a week total actually cleaning things. As for cooking, it just seems like a whole lot of time and effort for something you’re going to spend 5 minutes eating. I microwave something tasty or make pasta or a sandwich in just a few minutes, and then I use all my free time to do what I love. (And I have a LOT of free time :)).
3. Compare myself to other people
If you find yourself constantly on social media comparing yourself to other people, you might want to read our “10 Things Not to Do If You’re Depressed” article. Everyone is on their own unique journey. Wherever you are right now is exactly where you need to be. Just trust that. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and taking baby steps every day and your time will come.
4. Check my phone a hundred times a day
Checking your phone constantly just gives you anxiety because either something needs your attention (like an email or text) or you’re stressed out because nothing needs your attention and you’re wondering why people aren’t texting you. A lot of people are glued to their phones throughout the day, but I usually have my phone in my room plugged in and only check it a few times a day (unless I’m talking to someone). If you’re out and about, check out your surroundings or do a little people-watching. It’s not that scary to not always be on your phone. 🙂
5. Use social media obsessively
This is similar to the one about checking your phone all day. If you find yourself constantly scrolling through Facebook, maybe it’s time to replace that habit with a new one. If you’re alone in public and don’t want to look that way, maybe you can read an inspirational blog or use Resilient’s app. (hint hint ;)). Or maybe you can do some journaling in the Notes section of your phone or write out a list of goals for this month. Looking at Facebook one more time (more like the 50th time) today is just going to make you depressed if you start comparing yourself to everyone else on there.
6. Play video games
I’ve always been terrible at video games, but I guess that’s a good thing because I’m happier for it. 🙂 For some people video games are a way to release stress, but they’re really violent and seem to cause you more anxiety than they relieve. If you play a lot of video games, consider reading a personal development book or watching an inspirational TED talk instead. A lot less violence and a happier you.
Finally, the last thing I don’t do that helps my depression is that I don’t complain. Sure, there are times when I just want to whine about things and vent to someone, but I keep most of that to journaling on my computer (and I definitely don’t save that writing). Complaining is just a bad habit, like anything else, so try going a whole day without complaining and see how your attitude changes.
Well, there you have it! Seven things I don’t do that help my depression. Do you do any of these things already, or are you going to try not doing them? Let me know in the comments below. 🙂
If you’d like to learn more about negative things to let go of in your life, check out our 30 Day Negativity Detox class.