This is a guest post by Carlton Ryan.
All of us desire success and happiness in life. Yet, we are often the reason we are unhappy, dissatisfied, and unable to reach our goals. The problem lies in destructive, negative thought patterns. Bad thoughts of this sort are like an enormous weight that we must carry around with us. Harmful thought patterns make accomplishing anything hard, but eliminating them is difficult. Still, learning to recognize destructive thoughts can help you control them: here are the five negative thoughts you should most try to avoid.
The Four Negative Thoughts Most Destructive to Happiness and Success
1. ‘My day is ruined.’
We all want every day to be perfect. Some people rise in the morning full of optimism that this day, everything will go as planned. As soon as they suffer a setback, they are overcome by feelings of failure and disappointment. They feel as if the day is lost, and give up. This sort of thinking will destroy any chance of personal success. Remember, failures and reversals are inevitable. The secret is not letting setbacks get you down: turn your disappointment into a minor speed bump on your way to success.
2. ‘I know I can’t do it.’
You’ve doomed yourself to failure if you decide you can’t accomplish something before you even try. Who knows? Maybe you really can’t do it — but, it’s ridiculous to assume so beforehand. If there’s something you want to accomplish, at least give it a shot before you decide it’s not within your reach. Sometimes we underestimate ourselves. You might surprise yourself and find that what seemed an impossibility is actually quite doable.
3. ‘I should have…’
The past is gone, and can’t be changed. Endlessly wondering if you made the wrong decision, or wishing you had taken a different approach is pointless and depressing. If you make a mistake, then spending a short period reflecting on how you went wrong is wise and healthy. However, take this time only so you can perform better in the future. It shouldn’t take long to draw positive lessons from the error you made — once this is done, let the matter drop.
4. ‘It’s all their fault.’
Some people seem to have convinced themselves that all setbacks they suffer are the fault of others. In their mind, every problem or misfortune can be blamed on somebody else. Obviously, this is an absurd notion. Sometimes, our problems are self-caused. Be honest and make an objective judgment of the situation. You’ll often find that you may be more responsible than you had thought. Acknowledging your responsibility will ultimately make you happier — you will know you are capable of doing better in the future.
Life is hard enough as it is. Don’t make it tougher than it must be by putting self-created barriers in your path. Negative, destructive thought patterns can be one of the biggest hindrances to success and happiness, so learning to keep them at bay is vital. If you feel damaging thoughts like those listed above beginning to creep in to your mind, shut them out by focusing on something else. In time you will break your habit of harmful thought patterns.