“…when I’ve practiced acceptance, when I’ve floated instead of fought, when I’ve rested, even for a moment, on the surface instead of wrestling the water itself. And those moments are like heaven.” – Shauna Niequist, Bittersweet
I’ve been thinking about this idea for a few years that we always say you should “fight” depression.
And most of the time, that’s a great idea. You have to fight for the life you want.
But sometimes, I think it’s better to make peace with your depression. Make friends with that part of you. Don’t try to fight it or resist it.
Look at your depression like it’s a scared child and say, “I understand you’re in pain. We will get through this.”
Because really, depression is just a part of you that’s a little scared and a little sad mixed in with other emotions, and sometimes fighting depression feels like you’re fighting against yourself instead of for yourself. But it’s not an outside enemy.
You have to be your own biggest cheerleader and supporter. Depression is just a part of you, but it isn’t all of you. And it doesn’t have to define you.
Try listening compassionately to your depression, that darker side of you. What is the pain and hurt and sadness trying to tell you? Listen with love and empathy.
In the end, all we want is to be heard, loved, and understood. Treat your depression the same way, with compassion and love. It’s not something to hate out of existence or be ashamed of but to show love to yourself and the darker parts of your mind so that you’re not scared anymore.
Because while I still like saying things like, “stay strong,” and “keep fighting,” you just have to make sure that you’re not just fighting another battle against yourself instead of for yourself.
You might also be interested in our 30 Day Negativity Detox, an online class about reducing the negativity in your life to make room for the positive. 🙂