3. Be Relentlessly Positive
This concept is one that gets much, much easier with practice. When you’re just starting out, notice how much negativity is in your life and how often you complain or judge people. If you actually counted the number of times each day, it’s probably a lot. 😉 But that’s ok.
If you keep track of your negative thoughts, you’ll be more aware of them and will naturally start to break that habit. Because that’s all negativity is – a bad habit. You can choose to think positively instead. Even when you want to complain about something, try to find the positive. Write lists of what you’re grateful for and find the good in people. Over time being positive just becomes your new habit.
And in the end, attitude is everything.
4. Treat Yourself Like a Best Friend
If there’s one person you’re going to be stuck with for the rest of your life, it’s you. You aren’t even going to spend as much time with your future partner as you do with yourself.
So you might as well make friends with yourself.
Better yet, treat yourself like a best friend. Be your biggest cheerleader and supporter. Instead of tearing yourself down or being hard on yourself, make your self talk positive and encouraging (even if you don’t believe it at first). Say things like, “You can do it!” and “Don’t give up! You’re almost there.” Don’t wait for a knight in shining armor to come save you – you can save yourself.
In the words of Regina Spektor, you’re the hero of this story. You don’t need to be saved.
Think about what you would say to a best friend if they were going through a tough time, and then treat yourself with the same level of love and compassion. You deserve it.
5. Do What You Love
Honestly any one of these concepts could completely change your life if you study it and take the time to apply it consistently over time. But this one is probably my personal favorite for being a happy person. If you’re doing what you love, you’re going to be so, SO much happier than if you’re stuck in a life you hate.
Even if you’re relentlessly positive about a job you hate, it’s just not the same as following your dreams every day. You only have one life, so you might as well spend it doing what you love. This is your life. Make it a good one.
If you’d like to learn more about some of these topics, check out our 30 Day Negativity Detox class.