Sometimes people think that you can’t choose to be happy. Can you choose to be happy? Here’s what I think.
Can You “Choose” to Be Happy?
Yes and no.
When I say you have to “choose” to be happy, I don’t mean that you can snap your fingers and suddenly you’re super happy and all your problems are gone (that would be kind of cool though ;)). I mean that you have to choose to go down this path toward happiness and recovery. For the most part, happiness isn’t something that just randomly falls into your lap or is gifted to certain magical “chosen” people – it comes from an active decision to see things in a positive way and take responsibility for your life. It is a choice to put forth conscious effort in this area.
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You alone are responsible for your happiness.
You choose to walk down this path that ultimately leads to happiness. You choose to say, “I’m going to be happy.” You have to continue walking down the path and consciously putting in the effort to improve your attitude and your life. And it usually doesn’t happen overnight.
Sometimes happiness is a by-product of some other choice in life, like doing what you love or pursuing your passion. You might find that if you’re living your life the way you want to, you’re naturally happy. Other times, you have to work more for it and actively seek to find the good in life and be grateful for what you have.
Being happy always starts with the choice to be happy, but it doesn’t end there. 😃 After you make the decision that you want to be happy or improve your life, you’ll probably have to let go of a lot of beliefs that are trying to hold you back, or the negative self talk telling you that you don’t deserve to be happy. Or maybe you’re holding onto some ideas that happy people are a certain way and you’d never want to be “one of those people,” or that you’re a victim and can never be happy because of your past, or you’re blaming other people for your unhappiness. Forgiveness work can be helpful for this.
But once you clear out all the things that are holding you back, the path to happiness becomes simple.
Above all else, remember this:
Happiness is not something you find, but something you create.
- How to Be Happy Consistently
- 5 Beliefs I Changed to Be Happy
- 10 Things Happy People Do Differently
- 7 Common Ways to Be Happy in Life
- How to Be Happy Anytime
You can do this. 🙂
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